My Weird Home-Schooled Kids

But ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of him who hath called you out of darkness into his marvellous light. – 1 Peter 2:9


Twelve years ago, the decision my husband and I made to home-school (or homeschool, whatever your preferred spelling) our kids was met with mixed reviews.

Although many people encouraged us, a few expressed concerns that our kids would end up being socially awkward.

Maladjusted.

You know – just plain weird.

But the doubters’ concerns did not change our minds.

And so, for years, my children have attended school just steps away from their bedrooms, in our designated school room. Today, my eldest two are juniors, and my youngest is a fifth grader.

And…the results are in!

My kids are indeed a bit weird.

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Let me explain. They are not, as some speculated they would be, socially awkward. When opportunities arose for our kids to put themselves out in the real world, so to speak, my husband and I encouraged them to take advantage of those opportunities: their 4-H club, church ministries, music, dance, public speaking, computer science, guitar lessons, blogging, physical fitness, and more. These activities have allowed them to learn from and befriend wonderful people of all ages, in person and through cyberspace.

And, we have tried to teach them about the realities of running a home and holding down a job. All three are expected to maintain their grades and complete regular chores, and my older two are now driving and working as well.

Where I believe my kids deviate from the norm is in the strength of their spiritual lives.

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Please understand, I’m not saying that all home-schooled kids are ultra-spiritual, or that kids who attend public school cannot have a strong relationship with the Lord.

I’m also not saying that my kids are perfect. Definitely not! They struggle with their flesh as any other Christian does.

But when I compare my spiritual strength during my teenage years to that of my kids’….well, there’s no comparison, really. My children have a strong desire to study the Bible, to know and love God, and to live their lives according to his will, whereas my teenage self was consumed with insecurity and the desire for a boyfriend. To me, God was merely incidental, despite my lifelong attendance at a Christian school.

Why? Are my kids stronger Christians than I was just because of home-schooling?

I doubt it. I believe that the power of prayer has impacted their lives more than anything else: the prayers of their grandparents and great-grandparents, the prayers of my husband and I, and their own prayers.

Before my kids were born, I began praying that God would help them love him and desire a relationship with him far more than I did, as a child.

And he has answered that prayer. In that sense, they have become weird – or as the Bible says, peculiar.

No matter all the reasons why my kids are the way they are, their peculiarity is one of the things for which I am most thankful to God.


What do you think about Biblical weirdness/peculiarity? How do you pray for the children in your life? I appreciate your comments as always.


Who gave himself for us, that he might redeem us from all iniquity, and purify unto himself a peculiar people, zealous of good works. – Titus 2:14


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26 thoughts on “My Weird Home-Schooled Kids”

  1. If kids are Biblically weird, they are following in the footsteps of Christ. At His Presentation, Simeon told Mary and Joseph that the child would be “a sign opposed by many,” another way of saying He would lead a controversial life. We are called to do the same, in the belief that what is right is not always popular, and what’s popular isn’t always right. In this case, long live weirdness 🙂 — Mike

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  2. I’m realizing that I pray more passionately for my children now that they aren’t napping in their cribs — they are out driving and meeting people and bringing their “homeschool weirdness” to the world! It’s good to feel out of control and sense total dependence on God for their protection and guidance…. but sometimes it’s a struggle to be full of faith instead of full of fear 🙂

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  3. My wife and I chose to homeschool largely because our children were ready to start learning before the school rules allowed them to enroll. Also, we knew a family that homeschooled successfully–two of their daughters were regular sitters for our children. Now, years later, five have finished college (two going on to earn their Masters’ degrees), one is ready to begin this fall, and another is going to graduate in December. They all are active church members (although some of them work late on Saturdays and sleep in on Sundays, so they don’t have perfect church attendance), several of them are Irish Dance champions, and for the most part they are respected, well-adjusted people. They learned how to interact in the company of people of various ages, rather than being surrounded five days a week by thirty of their peers. They learned how to learn, and how to do so independently. They still love literature, music, and other fine arts. There were times that the teaching was hard work, but we have no regrets. J.

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    1. Thanks so much for sharing your hindsight point of view! Your children sound delightfully well-adjusted. 🙂 I am nearing the end with my older two, but we have yet to go through some major milestones. Teaching at home is hard work, and not for the faint of heart, but I also have no regrets. It has been a privilege to spend so much time with my kids and be the one to lead them through many learning experiences.

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  4. My two girls were homeschooled up through the 3rd and 4th grade. We all loved it, but then I had to put them in public school for different reasons. It took them a while to adjust, but I’d have to say that there are good points about each way. They had some good teachers in public school (although once or twice I had to fight for it, perhaps I was a pest). They are all grown up now and they have changed in many ways, but I believe their homeschooling years gave them a good foundation. They are choosing their own path now, but I see things that they learned in homeschool that really helped them along the way. Being in public school helped them to be strong and I was so glad that they weren’t swayed (too much) by popular trends of that time. They grew into their own persons, which is nice to see. They are also polite, kind and responsible people. I don’t know if they are “weird,” but they are both definitely unusual.

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  5. My husband and I made the decision to home school our kids last year, and have been met with mixed reviews as well. Even some nasty comments from family members about my children being “Weird” thanks so much for this post. Its confirmation that my husband and I have made the right decision.

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