When Your Husband Cuts Your Hair

In an effort to stretch family funds, I have become a do-it-yourselfer in many areas through the years. Long ago, I started cutting my own hair, and I eventually learned to do my family’s as well. (YouTube and a bit of trial and error can teach anything.)

My hairstyle is pretty straightforward, medium-length and layered, with few variations through the years. It must not look too bad, as I’ve had several women ask me where I get my hair done.

Anyway, I’ve often had my husband trim my hair across the back, as it’s nearly impossible to get it perfectly even on my own. He did that for me as usual this week. But, not as usual, he cut a little more off than I was intending.

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“All I asked was for you to even it out!!” I said.

“Well, it’s even now,” he responded, as we looked at the hair on the bathroom floor. “I don’t know why women’s haircuts are so expensive.”

I graced him with a roll of my eyes and a smack to my forehead.

Yes, my hair is indeed even, perfectly straight across the back. But it’s now a length I find unflattering and difficult to manage, as it’s too short to wear in a ponytail, the style I prefer for working out, doing housework, teaching, and pretty much any other task – unless I use bunch of hair clips along with a hair tie.

I feel like an eight-year-old. But the look is not nearly as cute on me as it would be on a little girl.

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Though I am a bit disgruntled about the situation, my hair does grow quickly, and in a couple of months, it will be as easy as ever to pull it back, minus the girlish hair clips. I certainly can’t hold a grudge against my husband, who, after all, was only trying to do what I asked.

As well, I must consider how many times he has kindly overlooked my perennial busyness, when I say I am just too tired or overwhelmed to help him with some small task. At least he was willing to help me. He is certainly more Christ-like than I am in that way.


I also thought about Jesus, patiently working with his disciples, trying to communicate all he needed them to learn in three short years, all he needed them to do after he was gone. After all, as the first Christians, they had a lot to learn! But there were many times that they didn’t get it quite right.

They just didn’t get it when he said he would die and rise again after three days.

And he began to teach them, that the Son of man must suffer many things, and be rejected of the elders, and of the chief priests, and scribes, and be killed, and after three days rise again. And he spake that saying openly. And Peter took him, and began to rebuke him. – Mark 8:31-32

They often didn’t realize what he was trying to teach them through his miracles of healing, feeding the crowds, and casting out demons.

Then came the disciples to Jesus apart, and said, Why could not we cast him out?And Jesus said unto them, Because of your unbelief: for verily I say unto you, If ye have faith as a grain of mustard seed, ye shall say unto this mountain, Remove hence to yonder place; and it shall remove; and nothing shall be impossible unto you. Howbeit this kind goeth not out but by prayer and fasting. – Matthew 17:19-21

They didn’t comprehend his new message of “turn the other cheek” instead of the old “an eye for an eye.”

Ye have heard that it hath been said, An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth: But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also. – Matthew 5:38, 39

At times, they acted as if they didn’t understand that he was God and equal to him in all aspects.

And Peter answered and said to Jesus, Master, it is good for us to be here: and let us make three tabernacles; one for thee, and one for Moses, and one for Elias. – Mark 9:5

Yet, Jesus did not lose patience with them. He did not roll his eyes and smack his forehead.

He never said, “How long have you been doing this? You should have it right by now!”

I’m so thankful God is full of mercy and grace toward me, as well.

Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ. – Philippians 1:6


How has God or a loved one demonstrated mercy and patience toward you through the years? I welcome your comments!

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13 thoughts on “When Your Husband Cuts Your Hair”

  1. Having been as bald as an egg for many years now, I cannot relate to the haircut example. But I sure could go on about how much patience God has used on me!
    Here’s a big one: Not long after the Lord saved me, I began to have people tell me that I had a ‘pastor’s heart.’ I smiled and nodded, not at all sure what they were talking about. All I knew for ‘sure’ was that they had me mistaken for someone else!
    These types of comments continued for many years, and each time I heard it I was able to rationalize that these well meaning folks had it wrong. I was doing plenty of good things in the church, reading my Bible and working lots of hours. That seemed like more than enough.
    Our patient God kept it up and finally I stopped with all the excuses (after 20 years!) and sought Him through prayer about what this ‘pastor’s heart’ was all about.
    Fast forward to today and I have found the joy of being obedient to His call and am ever so grateful for His patience with me!
    Blessings,
    Pastor Chuck

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  2. Your husband is very kind to cut your hair. I’ve been cutting my husband’s hair for 44 years, because he doesn’t like going to the stylist’s because he does not like large mirrors ( He only told me this recently).
    Thanks for sharing .🤗

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  3. 🙂 I can relate. After 30+ years of marriage it is the little things that always drags our ‘self’ nature out like a model on a runway; flaunting all the pettiness it can muster up.

    Wanda and I have had to work through many issues in our marriage and it is always the tiny ones where we have to work the hardest for it is in those places we find ‘self’ so entrenched. Thankfully, we learn humility through these things. I am truly grateful for those times because only our marriage partner knows us so well they can observe such fruit, not tolerate it, celebrate when we repent and relationship is restored.

    I think many miss this in the Body of Christ. Because we do not value marriage today for what it is we miss out on the great rewards it brings. Too many young men and women think that marriage is all about pleasing them and their ‘self’ nature where the very opposite is true. God designed marriage to be the crucible where our ‘self’ will be exposed and dealt with so we can be truly valuable to our spouse, others and God. I have yet to find a better training ground for maturity than in marriage.

    No one can mature spiritually without humility. Since humility is not native to ‘self’ (pride is though) we have to grow into humility. Where better to learn that then someone who knows you inside out, our spouse. If we cannot humble ourselves before them how do we expect to be humble before others, or God?

    I give three cheers to God for marriage, especially the bad bits, for it is in these times, as iron sharpens iron, where our spouse is, maybe inadvertently, opening the pathway to maturity for us. Now if only we would take that path….

    Blessings,
    Homer Les
    http://www.uncompromisingfaith.ca

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    1. Amen and amen, Homer. I once that I would be more fulfilled in my marriage if my selfish needs were fulfilled – but no. My husband and I get along so much better, and our marriage is so much richer and more fulfilling, when we seek to serve one another.

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  4. I can imagine Christ doing some eye rolls and reaching for the divine Tylenol because of me, especially with regard to finances. I worry, it always works out (always!), and I hear, “Did all that worrying really help?” We all are blessed that He is patient!

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