Self-Esteem God’s Way (Part 1)

So many people struggle with thinking that they are not good enough (smart enough, attractive enough—check the box that fits). And it’s no wonder, given the mixed messages sent by our culture.

On the one hand, we’re told that we’ve all arrived, that we’re all winners, and that no one is better than anyone else. We all deserve a trophy and a pat on the back. Yeah for us! All of us!

But on the other hand, we’re told that if we just buy a certain product or “click here,” we’ll at last have that one thing that will make us ageless, thin, or smart.

Apparently, we really aren’t all acceptable just as we are. Hmmm.

I recently learned that the self-esteem movement began not long after prayer and Bible reading were removed from public schools in America. Psychologists recognized that they had to fill the vacuum left by the absence of God and the Judeo-Christian belief system, so they instilled in students the idea that they should turn inward for their source of strength and inspiration, instead of to God.

But without God, esteeming one’s self can lead to confusion, narcissism, and emptiness.

In that light, does self-esteem have any place in a Christian’s life? After all, the Bible emphasizes an attitude of humility, servitude, and selflessness.

Let another man praise thee, and not thine own mouth; a stranger, and not thine own lips. – Proverbs 27:2

I recently heard a wonderful answer to this question, as posed by Ben Schettler (click here for his entire presentation).

Schettler explains that Christians should have what he calls “God-esteem.”

In other words, we should esteem God so highly that we share his viewpoint of us. Created in his image and for his glory, we should take joy in the body, mind, soul, and spirit that he has given each of us, and determine to see ourselves as he does.

I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well. – Psalm 139:14


God intentionally made us each unique, inputting our strengths as well as our weaknesses, so as to accomplish his purposes; and in Scripture, he emphasizes all that he can do through the less-than-ideal aspects of ourselves. As Paul said,

Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities…for Christ’s sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong. – II Corinthians 12:10

To have the type of healthy self-esteem, or God-esteem, that God wishes for us is connected to the condition of our hearts. If we’re focused on loving and living for him, the cultural definition of self-esteem won’t matter to us. There will be no more comparing ourselves to some unattainable ideal or even to each other. Instead, we’ll strive to be the best version of ourselves that we can be—not through the latest diet or beauty product, but by living a life pleasing to him.

Remember Job? In God’s eyes, he attained perfection, and he did it through his godly life.

There was a man in the land of Uz, whose name was Job; and that man was perfect and upright, and one that feared God, and eschewed evil. – Job 1:1

Have you ever struggled with low self-esteem? How have you dealt with it? I’d love to hear from you.

In Part 2 next week, I’ll discuss how body image plays into self-esteem.

30 thoughts on “Self-Esteem God’s Way (Part 1)”

  1. Reblogged this on Mitch Teemley and commented:
    My Featured Blogger this week, the creator of My Way Home, is, in her own words, “a freelance writer, mom, and wife who’s all about being at home,” but who strives, “above all, to focus on using (her) life to prepare for (her) heavenly home.”

    My take on her? (I know her name, but don’t know if she wants it made public; hint: it’s not Taylor Swift). She’s the real deal, a thoughtful, passionate Jesus-follower, who strives to walk the talk and bring as many people as possible along with her on her journey homeward.

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  2. What a great article. I am just reading a book called “Quiet”. The book talks about how in the 1920’s America moved from a culture of character to a culture of personality, with the rise of Hollywood and psychology and the early expressions of the self-help/ self-improvement movement. Before 1900 Self esteem was rooted in godly character as the 20th century moved on self-esteem began to be determined by a person’s ability to achieve a societal standard of “excellence”.
    I would say as long as self-esteem is rooted in what someone else thinks of us rather than in what God thinks of us then we will never truly have it.

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  3. When you pull God from you, a void is created and it has to be filled with something. The world thinks they have all the right answers when they have no clue. May God overfill the voids in our inner most parts.

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  4. You may have heard about having a “check in your spirit”? I was having an off day, and at one point I got so frustrated with myself I said something (out loud) like “Ann, you idiot! Can’t you do anything right!?”
    I felt a sudden “check in my spirit.” I sensed the Lord’s saying – “HEY! You’re talking to someone I love! And You. Will. Not. Speak. To. Her. That. Way.”
    I stopped, said “Yes, Sir…” and tried to be nicer to myself.

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    1. Ooops… apparently, I had already commented. I remembered reading your post, but was afraid I had forgotten to comment. Forgive me. You can delete this set of comments if you’d like. 😉 ❤

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  5. PTL! Such a treasure to read and think on such thoughts, Meredith. God esteem is another extraordinary way of saying God’s will. I am thankful to have read it, and smile to know that Shae is in being taught through such a God filled soul. Me and God love you both!

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