When my husband and I started dating more than twenty years ago, I found in him something that set our relationship apart from any I’d had before: understanding, in the sense that he “got” me. There was very little drama between us. We just clicked. We could laugh and talk together for hours on end about interests we shared and those we didn’t. We grew to admire and respect each other, and soon, to love each other.
After the wedding day, when there was drama, we rarely disagreed about fundamental issues like finances or raising the kids. Most often, I got upset when I felt we had slipped away from that deep understanding of each other. The fact that we held differing opinions about something didn’t bother me as much as our falling out of sync. I always wanted him to understand my point of view, even if it didn’t change his own. I wanted to restore the connection between us–to make sure he still got me.
I think we all have that desire to be understood and accepted, and while our deepest human relationships can fulfill that need to a great degree, only God can fill it completely. The scientist Blaise Pascal said that despite man’s need to fill his heart and life with everything around him,
“this infinite abyss can be filled only with an infinite and immutable object; in other words by God himself.”
Though we can spend our entire lives getting to know God, he doesn’t need to get to know us. He already does, inside and out. According to Psalm 139, he shaped us in our mother’s womb, and he knows when we stand up and sit down, when we sleep and when we wake. Luke 12:7 says that even the hairs of our head are numbered by God. Jesus made the analogy that he knows us as a shepherd knows the sheep whom he tends day after day.
“My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me.”–John 10:27
How refreshing! When we approach the throne of grace, we don’t need to explain ourselves. God will never misunderstand us. He gets us. And what’s more, he loves us for ourselves, because he made us who we are. He is our endlessly forgiving, ever encouraging, unchangeable Heavenly Father.
Image copyright Joshua D. Jackson, 2017.